Here is my experience with first ever "bride seeing" ceremony...
On the day of the event (sambavam nadandha annaiku) early in the morning, I stepped out of the train on the cold drizzling station of mine (after train being an hour late). When I reached home it was around 7 am. Not to mention I had a special warm welcome from my family. I told myself...this is my day..and I let out a pompous smile.
The groom's family was about to come by 10 am. My dad was busy tidying and arranging our meeting place (thankfully it's not our home and we saved our guest from the glare of our over pouring books and clothes), my mom was busy cooking some delicacies and my sister was helping both of them and in between trying to crack some jokes aiming to make me blush but in vain...and I was given the whole time to get ready to face the guy ! (how blissful..)
To my surprise I was not at all nervous...for some reason I just felt blunt ...though I knew I would be scrutinized from top to bottom by the spectator.
Finally the groom's family came around 10.30 am (and still it was raining). I saw the guy...OMG he was so handsome than I had pictured...and more noticeably he was fairer than me. I served them tea and delicacies. The guy started speaking with my dad. And then, I was stunned when he suddenly turned to me and asked - what is meant by genomics (a least expected question I had ever thought to come from a groom on the first meet..because being genomics graduate we always scorn at this question) well...I blurted something with an effort of hiding my inner thoughts.
Then my dad let the guy and me to go and talk in a private room. I was clueless about what to speak. I was glad that he himself started the conversation. As he spoke I actually liked him. He spoke in such way that he wants me to come Trichy (where he lives) as soon as possible (later I would realize it was flirtatious and I liked it !). He was even humorous and finally he said I can tell my father whether I like him or not. We joined the rest in the living room and I felt like we both shared a secret that no one else knew ! And, the groom's family suddenly got up and said they are leaving and said we can tell our opinion over phone...
My mom (and in fact all of us) felt it has ended so abruptly...she was expecting to express our mutual "OK" and to proceed with further talks...
In the night dad called groom's father to express our consent. After the phone conversation ended, my dad announced that the groom and his father are liking me but his mother is feeling that "jodi porutham" (outer appearance match as a couple) is not there and that he will try to convince her.
I told my dad I need not be in such a place where the groom's mother (which of course a main character in married life) does not like me..let's drop this.
And just like that it was all over for me...and a new tiring search started for my family...
On the day of the event (sambavam nadandha annaiku) early in the morning, I stepped out of the train on the cold drizzling station of mine (after train being an hour late). When I reached home it was around 7 am. Not to mention I had a special warm welcome from my family. I told myself...this is my day..and I let out a pompous smile.
The groom's family was about to come by 10 am. My dad was busy tidying and arranging our meeting place (thankfully it's not our home and we saved our guest from the glare of our over pouring books and clothes), my mom was busy cooking some delicacies and my sister was helping both of them and in between trying to crack some jokes aiming to make me blush but in vain...and I was given the whole time to get ready to face the guy ! (how blissful..)
To my surprise I was not at all nervous...for some reason I just felt blunt ...though I knew I would be scrutinized from top to bottom by the spectator.
Finally the groom's family came around 10.30 am (and still it was raining). I saw the guy...OMG he was so handsome than I had pictured...and more noticeably he was fairer than me. I served them tea and delicacies. The guy started speaking with my dad. And then, I was stunned when he suddenly turned to me and asked - what is meant by genomics (a least expected question I had ever thought to come from a groom on the first meet..because being genomics graduate we always scorn at this question) well...I blurted something with an effort of hiding my inner thoughts.
Then my dad let the guy and me to go and talk in a private room. I was clueless about what to speak. I was glad that he himself started the conversation. As he spoke I actually liked him. He spoke in such way that he wants me to come Trichy (where he lives) as soon as possible (later I would realize it was flirtatious and I liked it !). He was even humorous and finally he said I can tell my father whether I like him or not. We joined the rest in the living room and I felt like we both shared a secret that no one else knew ! And, the groom's family suddenly got up and said they are leaving and said we can tell our opinion over phone...
My mom (and in fact all of us) felt it has ended so abruptly...she was expecting to express our mutual "OK" and to proceed with further talks...
In the night dad called groom's father to express our consent. After the phone conversation ended, my dad announced that the groom and his father are liking me but his mother is feeling that "jodi porutham" (outer appearance match as a couple) is not there and that he will try to convince her.
I told my dad I need not be in such a place where the groom's mother (which of course a main character in married life) does not like me..let's drop this.
And just like that it was all over for me...and a new tiring search started for my family...
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